My (mostly) eHarmony-Free Life

First of all - thanks for the kind letters that a lot of you have sent asking how things have been going for me since I left eHarmony.

To be honest - it's been a challenging transition period for me. But I'm still convinced that it's the right thing to do.

Sadly, I turned to eHarmony because no one in our local community has made any significant effort to bring Jewish singles together to meet. My pre-eHarmony (and occasional during-eH) efforts to get local Jewish organizations to take a more proactive stance have all been pled to deaf ears.

And, after eHarmony? Pretty much the same.

So, since no local organizations are willing to pick up the slack, I've been forced to do it myself.

It's a slow process, but, months later, my group seems to be building some steam. Not a lot - my mailing list only has about 30 people on it - but some.

But, in the end? It's just the right thing to do.

In the Jewish tradition, there's a kabbalistic concept called "Tikkun Olam". To oversimplify, it posits that the messiah isn't present, because the world is broken. And it's our responsibility to do our part to repair the world so that a messiah or messianic age can occur.

Now, whether you believe in mysticism or not - it does seem the right thing to do.

And, maybe, this is one little corner of the world that I can help to fix.

But don't cry for me, folks. I do have a double date this weekend....

PS. The "mostly" part? Okay, I didn't give up cold turkey. But I restricted my geography to the local area. Matches are so slow that I only check in on Free Communication weekends. Two have gone by without matches.

I'm fine with that.